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seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
9/26/2018 11:50 am

It means... drumroll..... they want SEX Lala


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/26/2018 12:00 pm

I can't tell you what it actually means, because like you said. The acronyms are ambiguous at best.

In my book, it's just sex with the minimal of effort involved. Maybe a little more than just a bump and run. But not much. Could easily use the phrase, don't ask and don't tell .

As seems said..it's just sex.

" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
9/26/2018 12:12 pm

I think most men would secretly like to be Pinochio.
So you can sit on our faces as we tell you our lies


flowerkings2012 60M
4312 posts
9/26/2018 12:13 pm

Asking for or exchanging names is a string


Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
9/26/2018 12:13 pm

You are spot on Lala why make matters complicated when all they have
to do is state in Queen's English what it is they are presumably looking for.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/26/2018 12:24 pm

    Quoting Platosgames:
    I can't tell you what it actually means, because like you said. The acronyms are ambiguous at best.

    In my book, it's just sex with the minimal of effort involved. Maybe a little more than just a bump and run. But not much. Could easily use the phrase, don't ask and don't tell .

    As seems said..it's just sex.
BiggLala replies on 9/26/2018 2:15 pm:
I can't tell you what it actually means...
*tapping index finger on chin, pondering if she should out you*
Ahh, what the hell...

You can probably guess the thread--and comment--that inspired this post.
Soooooo....as Agent Poole asked in "Care to revise your statement, sir?"
(yeah, sorry...I had to call you out...don't hate me *cringe* )

As a lot of men tell women, we're not mind readers, so...say what you mean, and mean what you say.

LOL..now I'm gonna have to go look at that post..wasn't that one more of a "can fwb's be exclusive? "

I don't think NSA and FWB are even close to being in the same ball park.

" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Dru__b 35M
43 posts
9/26/2018 12:44 pm

Agreed now a days people are so busy with their lives they just want satisfaction which isn’t bad in my opinion as long as both parties receive what they need


friendlypirateAV 57M

9/26/2018 12:48 pm

This is gonna sound harsh: When you exchange fluids with someone else, there is a good chance strings will be attached. I don' t know the exact definition of strings either. Maybe it means "no emotional attachment should be expected". I think that can be supplemented to with "...unless it turns out I like you and then there will be unexpected strings whether you or I like it or not."


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
9/26/2018 1:47 pm

Well interesting question and I would have to say someone that's clingy and wont let go..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
9/26/2018 1:56 pm

I haven't ever said I was seeking NSA, but if I had to define it, for me it would mean that we're not exclusive - can date other people,; and there isn't an expectation that we're going to act the way that committed couples do (e.g. the default is that you're spending time together every weekend).

I think for a lot of other people on this site it means -
- it's only sex, don't expect dinner and movie first or even "Netflix and chill"
- it's spur of the moment, no advance notice
- don't catch any feelings

I kinda have issues with all of those things! I don't usually feel like having sex with someone if I haven't had at least minimum time to hang out with them. And last minute invitations leave me feeling like I'm the last resort - "Well nothing else fun is happening this evening, maybe I'll text Smarty and see if she's DTF".


astute2r3 68M

9/26/2018 3:06 pm

It does seem that articulation , verbalization and good mature adult communication is declining at a rapid rate. With NSA, FWB, etc. there seems to be a disconnect in general. With texting and essentially guessing and or trying to comprehend what some are saying and or "trying to say" has become troubling at best. What do they mean? What is it that they are trying to say, seem to be unable to say OR do they actually know themselves? However, It does seem obvious that "sex" is the goal, but actually having the mental and physical ability to "enjoying good sex" and or actually being good at the things that show signs of "good sex" and or signs that someone actually enjoys and appreciates someones talent, energy and effort, is in question, I do believe. Great Lovers are Indeed Rare! They are not born, but must take the time, energy and effort, along with the real quality experiences, to reach what I believe to be a "preferred level of lover". These days, we do not seem to have very much of that "great sex" these days to enjoy. I do know what a string is and the attachment of any string and or strings, would be one where there was a mutual agreement, mature adult like and a relevant mental understanding, where all parties indeed knew and felt, that "time" could potentially result in even better sex and a more mutually shared pleasure, enjoyment and fun. Potentially achieving a "win win" for all. Best of Luck LaLa


2trythis 60F
5109 posts
9/26/2018 3:21 pm

To me NSA means having sex without the friends part. People just getting together for sex and nothing more.

Having sex and doing some non-sexual things while not being committed/exclusive with each other would be a FWB..

I would think that sex and non-sex things in a committed (exclusive) relationship is BF/GF.

Guess everyone has their own definitions which is why people need to talk, not just text and email.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
9/26/2018 3:25 pm

NSA - Nae Sects Attacked
FWB - Farts Wi Bubbles
PDQ - Pure Dead Quiet
AFL-CIO - Adult Food Licker - Cooked In Oven

See!!! Ah'm right doon wi the kids, eh??

For me, a string can be any consequence, irrespective of how minor it might seem. And there are always consequences, always.........


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
9/26/2018 3:57 pm

    Quoting  :

This right here answers the question . . . What is the 'string'?

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/26/2018 4:42 pm

BiggLala replies on 9/26/2018 2:32 pm:
Yes, that was the very post.
AND...I think you need to re-read or clarify a part of your response on that post before you comment on this one again. Just saying.
(not picking on you...well, who the hell am I kidding...yes I am absolutely picking on you, but this is for my real, fake scientific study Go science!!! *fist in the air* )

Here I'll copy it here for you...and this is why I hate all the acronymns. They all seem to mean something just a little different to everyone else. I'd rather just discuss the parameters of the relationship to whoever I'm in the realtionship with.

If we both understand what kind of relationship were in..you can call it whatever you like. For the science part...

My definitions.

NSA.. I can text and say..you available at 3? Show up, fuck for an hour and boogie.

FWB We do stuff together, When we get together, it isn't always just for sex. We might go to a family dinner. I might help her paint her living room. But, we also have sex.

I think this is the biggest "conflict" of definitions we're having. I see commitment as more of a long term thing. The non legal equivilent to marriage.

Exclusive just means I'm not dating, or having sex with anyone else. No time limit or goal. Just until we break up, move away, decide to change the program. We are exclusive. There was/is no commitment of length...or outcome.



" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
9/26/2018 5:27 pm

Not that I look at all that many women's profiles... but I don't think I've seen many real women seeking men advertise they're interested in NSA. Mostly it's men.

I've always thought of "strings" as a type of ownership when it's used in that form. Like having the right of first refusal.

But we all know what most profiles mean when they say NSA. I want you to be available when I want you but don't talk to me when I don't.


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
9/26/2018 5:34 pm

No strings MOSTLY means free to fuck others if one of the partners is unavailable for some reason AND then the ability to get back together at a mutually convenient time, without questions or need to explain.

NOT the be confused with "no ropes"

And yeah, thanks for getting right to the point.

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CynicusMaximus 52M
1844 posts
9/26/2018 7:59 pm

Probably not related, but I am currently working on my first novel written strictly with emojis.


marriedcretin 53M
1324 posts
9/26/2018 8:54 pm

Situationship ? Is that even a word?


Avonsenior 70M
1458 posts
9/26/2018 9:27 pm

I used to try and look up some of the acronyms on Google and the urban dictionary. Now I just ignore them because I think a lot more people are reading more or I would be reading the wrong message.
I vote for you and say what you want in plain Engish


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
9/27/2018 1:02 am

I have written in past profiles of wanting a few strings. I want to be able to talk to the person via text between hook ups. I want to know about him. I want him to know about me. I want there to be a basic feeling of respect and like for each other, rather than just strictly a fuck n go situation. I want a buddy to chat with. Not looking for love, or dating, as my situation doesn't warrant that.


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
9/27/2018 6:42 am

What I wonder is, in the category of 'NSA', what do you consider a 'string'?

It means don't show up with your dog and ask to move in and plan a cruise for next summer

i think for most, it means we won't be exclusive and don't get clingy.


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
9/27/2018 8:41 am


BiggLala replies on 9/27/2018 10:59 am:
Although, that still doesn't answer my question, which I realize some people never answered. I think most focused on the entire acronym, but I'm only asking about the 'S', the string. If one says 'no strings attached', then I wonder what people consider a 'string'.


String = bf/gf relationship?


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
9/27/2018 8:56 am

BiggLala replies on 9/27/2018 11:45 am:
Wow, that's an extremely narrow definition.
So I'm clear, is that *your* definition, or what you think most people mean when they mention 'strings'?


I think that's what most people consider string. Relationship.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
9/27/2018 9:45 am

Errmm, you would be guessing correctly.......

And I've nae clue what that little bit of phonetics is either!! Hey, dinnae mock, I'm just a daft jock whae needs a translator likes!! It's them bloody accents yooz huv!!


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
9/27/2018 10:59 am



Ye should ken well enough by now that I never follow instructions or direction........I always follow my nose, which is bloody well big enough, and which often gets sidetracked by some strange aromas.........

Speaking of which, I've still nae clue whatsae ever aboot yon phonetics................and I'm sittin here like a twat goin over and over it, sayin it oot loud......... F'n eejit that ah am!! ellin-emm-ohh-pee, hahahahahaha!!


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
9/27/2018 5:53 pm

BiggLala replies on 9/27/2018 10:30 am:
In what (WAY) does your definition differ from an FWB? You've mentioned that you have several, so are you saying that you have to explain your other exploits to your FWBs, and they you?

Keep in mind (and you're not the only one who missed it) I'm NOT asking about the term NSA. I'm *only* asking what constitutes a string. I mean, if someone says 'no strings', then what is a 'string'

***********

Well, like so much in language, what it means depends on the person speaking it.

I've never really ever sought something I called NSA, with FWB being HUGE for me. I'd guess the difference is NSA doesn't really imply any level of caring. For example, you available and call for a sex date and the other is sick. Do you:
1) Move on down the Little Black Book - NSA; or
2) Offer to come over and give them...chicken soup (or whatever) - FWB.

A guess another BETTER example I just now thought of is:
Does every date mean sex - NSA
Or sometimes is it not sexual - FWB

And with my FWBs, given my situation I don;'t expect them to only be having sex with me, and vice versa. And so. since we're both major pervs we adore hearing the GRAPHIC details of each others latest exploits (no names, only body part descriptions ).

Make sense?

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smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
9/27/2018 9:08 pm

>> So, if I am able to glean from your comment, a 'string' [to you] means a genuine activity buddy that you may or may not occasionally have sex with? I want to clarify because I'm only asking about what constitutes a 'string', NOT what the term NSA means.

Wellll - NSA is "No Strings Attached" and my response detailed my definition of NSA. So I guess to define a "string" it would be the opposite of what I said about NSA- either making a commitment to exclusivity, not dating other people; or having a very set schedule of when we're going to get together.


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
9/28/2018 6:57 am

BiggLala replies on 9/27/2018 9:42 pm:
Yeah, understand completely that meaning can vary from person to person. That's what I asked people what they consider a 'string', i.e. what it means to them.

Your clarification makes sense, but I don't necessarily agree with the examples that you'd consider NSA versus FWB, at least with the 1 & 2 examples. I imagine you weren't speaking in absolutes, though, so it's cool. Speaks to the point of this post, eh? Anyway...

So...TL;DR you consider 'caring' a string. LOL!
Did I get it right?

****

Yes, caring is a string, but I said back at the beginning that I wasn't much for NSA, and greatly preferred FWB.

What does "TL;DR" mean?

FMF, FFM, or FfM
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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
9/30/2018 7:15 am

Well now...... WOW! I have absolutely nothing constructive to add... Just thought I'd pop in and say hi.. Have a great day!


wickedeasy 74F
32404 posts
9/30/2018 1:18 pm

when people say NSA I think they're commitment phobes

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


2trythis 60F
5109 posts
9/30/2018 4:30 pm

Strings means someone brings in an "if, then" into the relationship. If we have sex then ??? If we do this then ???.


IVFalternative 52M
630 posts
10/1/2018 5:01 am

If you have any way of contacting them for a second hookup is a string 😉

Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers


Aes604 49M
46 posts
10/1/2018 8:25 pm

No strings attached. Means nothing holding us together. I guess that covers emotions feelings expectations Notions


thewholepie 42M

10/5/2018 6:33 am

this topic is more complex than actual string theory . but i'd have to say it means no expectations, whatever that may mean to you is relative.


thewholepie 42M

10/8/2018 7:38 am

like i said it is quite relative to the individual psyche, as people have varying peaks and valleys in their identities and emotional responses.

with that said, it's my observation that a generalized notion, and my personal take would be no expectation of further encounters, allowing for the alleviation of the burden of hurting the other should they not want continuous interactions. it is an attempt at "free love" in the 21st century but philosophically hollow. if id have to go out on a limb i would say compartmentalization and a culture of isolationism produce this.


amybell2 55F
54 posts
10/11/2018 4:48 pm

For me, if I want no strings, I go with battery operated. No strings, no power cords. If there is an actual breathing person involved, there is some kind of 'string' attached. That is my theory.


UturnBlow 53M
134 posts
10/16/2018 12:03 pm

Way too old to be following this crap.........not you, me. Or, did I mean to say not me, you I cry a tear for the young'uns.......swiping for a F&*k used to mean glances in an elevator at a business conference and the desire to have 'fun'.....now, human interaction is removed from the equation.......pictures, acronyms, hashtags rule the day. Hooking up on this basis......lol, well, I can only guess that this contributes to the rise of the #metoo generation. I espouse, nay cry, for people to get out! Talk, debate, have fun........in person! To answer your question, my definition of a 'string' is inconsequential. I could care less. Hey, snowflakes, touch someone. The children of the 2020's will bring back the era of the 70's. Mark my word, misery on the internet today will not last. You cannot and will not reduce life and feeling to an acronym. My two cents for free.

All opinions and statistics are derived from a poll of 1 (me). The rate of error is plus/minus 100%.


houstonnewsissy 36T
15 posts
10/19/2018 4:53 pm

Yea, the acronym-speak is really annoying and dumbs us all down. It's just an excuse not to have conversations anymore.

Getting to know someone should be like unwrapping a gift... not reading a shopping list.


markj4fun 43M

10/21/2018 1:38 pm

A string would be a desire to make it an exclusive and restrictive arrangement.


rm_Tenoaks10 56M
9 posts
10/21/2018 9:07 pm

It seems as though, what I am reading is that people lie, even to themselves! So why would I lie to myself? Oh that's right, I don't want others or myself to be viewed negatively. If I like sex and enjoy fucking different women on numerous occasions that could mean I am not trust worthy and a low down snake in the grass. So I lie to make myself seem what society would rule as normal. Yeah, I can see that, been during it all my life in order to get woman naked and fuck them. Only if you could meet a real woman that like sex (because woman don't love sex as much as I do, Right) and openly sport fuck and teach/learn to how to reach the best climaxes without shame.


strangefox05 38M/38F
22 posts
10/25/2018 7:25 pm

Thats a very good question.

I'd consider a string to be some form of attachment. ANY form of attachment. In the appropriate use of the word I guess that would mean a one night stand? For couples looking for singles, NSA is ideal because it minimises the chances of complicating things and potentially making a mess in a relationship


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